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Dangerous people are always scary to be around, Often you get goose bumps just being close to them. So why would someone who knows this still involve themselves in dangerous relationship?

Most people who are in a relation ship which involves others go through change cycles. the change cycle of a dangerous relationship has a circle of events that looks like this

Everything is wonderful, then a massive explosion & blow up followed by great remorse.

When you first get together with someone everything seems just wonderful. It's not until you have been sucked in and your lives are intertwined that the Dr Jackal turns to Mr Hyde! Feeling connected to the other you find it difficult to leave.

Sadly a regular reason this happens is that the abused are from a background where such behaviour was seen as common, they feel that this is the norm! They deserved the punishment as they see it. They have no choice but to "take the abuse"

Through the complete cycle the abuse party is usually still very focused on assisting the abuser and even showing extra care to the partner. I find this heartbreaking.

The first step is you must realise that you do have a choice and you don't deserve that kind of treatment. Easily said however people who are mixed up in dangerous relationship are often of low self esteem by nature.

Once you believe that you have choices the next part is to stand your corner. If in a dangerous relationship your probably a very familiar with the term "It's all your fault" once you believe that it is your fault it can be almost impossible to escape or even change the things to fix the relationship.

It's not all doom as some couples are able to change the flow of the cycle. Some leave and find normality in the next partner. And some stay and rescue a dangerous relationship through counselling, or another popular choice is group therapy.

Bottom line though all relationships can be rescued. sometimes they need counselling other times they just really need a bit of space. You both must be willing to change things, If so, the dangerous relationship can transform into a very strong and healthy one.

If the situation doesn't change are you willing to walk?...You should be! Only from a distance, can you effect change in dangerous relationship.

Once you know that you can walk if you have to that's the time to drop your wish list .... and don't in anyway be harsh but just ask for, "Their help, their support and their honesty" only. Let them know that if they cannot deliver those 3 tasks then your gone.

A blessed relationship is like a beautiful dream. where a dangerous relationship is more like a recurring nightmare. You do have the ability to stop the nightmare. but you must take charge of the situations. You must put the rescue into your hands.

Source : ezinearticles.com